You know loving someone does not mean staying with them 24 7( Read:SUFFOCATE! ). It doesnt mean knowing every step , every move , every flirtations they do:P ( Read : The latter shall be dealt subtly:P) It doesnt mean scrutising , watching and dealing. It means to let go. to do things at your own Pace. Like you would have done it when you were single. But then youd ask why fall in love if youre so cool with yourself ( I read the sarcasm readers:P ) You know that is the most beautiful part. How special it feels to have someone ( friend/boyfriend whatever ) with whom you can be yourself. Its relaxing and beautiful.
I am with him when he runs,on his path.I wont say im holding hands and sacrificing this that for him and crap. Believe me no one can love somone if you cant respect yourself enough.I run on my paths. And yes sometimes we have to adjust so that we run seeing each other or knowing each other are fine. Then i pray for crossroads not to see him but to know how he has done and if he needs my comments nd critisicm :P ( Read: Im with a Critical Taurean:P ). Then there is this beauty of knowing someone and seeing how he/she has grown. Its as if you made the clay pot an dleft it and some natures rain has colored it beautifully,naturally and you realise that pot is not what you made. But then it belongs to the entity that unites them.
I Think when i and him and friends and so let each other have space its a gesture to say " I respect your individuality".I Love you as a lover/as a friend for who you are and not what you have done for me. Something Like that. How unconditional is that.
Id like to remind that many times staying with a person habituates people to help etc. The true challenge is to do that and feel that with no pressure.I have seen friendships/relationships crumble because of this. They dieOut. They fade. They get Bored. Its a challenge to to be yourself and be a part of your love/friendship without compromising on nothing. And that is not impossible.
Im still learning.
This post revealed a trait of urs so openly that now it is no use for u to subtly show that you care/love/admire a person.
ReplyDeleteGood one!
Great insights!!!
ReplyDeleteSpace - indeed is a need for a relation to flourish.
However, could space by it self, help a relation grow?
Do you see trust as that invisible force that binds this relationship when this space stretches... making it possible to let someone BE in our life.. let someone Influence us with their care concern, but without really controlling them or be controlled by them
Ravi Ahuja